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coach steve toth: welcome

to the new health conversation televisionshow, coming to you live from our denver, coloradostudios. i m your coach and moderator,coach steve toth and i am here with peter greenlaw, he is known as the world s most

prominent investigative scientist. welcome to the show. peter greenlaw: thankssteve. coach steve toth: our themetoday is how toxicity, deficiency, being overweight and

stress are major contributing factors to relationships first to ourselvesand secondly our relationships with others. i couldn t think of a betterperson to have as our guest and he s actually our returning guest.

and his name is john gray,phd and he is an author, speaker, tv host, relationship coach and i am sure many other things. welcome back to the show.

john gray, phd: well thank you. it s a pleasure to be here. coach steve toth: and ifpeople have difficulty, connecting the dots as to who john

gray is then let me mention one of his most famous books, which is menare from mars, women are from venus. i think it s been printed in what 30-40 languages?

peter greenlaw: at least. coach steve toth: it s sold more than 50,000 copies i mean 50,000,000copies what am i saying 50 million copies. are you with us?

john gray, phd: i m here! coach steve toth: okay great. i m really excited about our theme today because it has to do withrelationships with ourselves first and thenwith others.

let s have you talk tous about and to our viewers why is the relationship with ourselves kind of important. for me, it comes with myself first before i m concerned about relationshipswith others.

john gray, phd: well if you are judgmental toward yourself, you arejudgmental towards others. if you re a perfectionist and you feel like you have to be perfect andyou get upset if

you re not perfect thenyou re upset when other people are not perfect. quite often, if your self-esteem is not high then you feel unworthy of loveand often attract people that giveyou what you need. some people with low self-esteemthey are being mistreated and they think they are

lucky. if you are not feelinggood about yourself, you tend to become needy. and when you re needy in the beginning of a relationship you feel reallygood and as we are going to explorein today s show the newness stimulates dopamine and serotonin.

and that makes you feel really, really good. it makes you feel good about yourself, good about others but oncethe newness wears off then you re back towhere you were when you started before the relationship and are

you feeling good about yourself? we start looking at the relationship between self-esteem and brainchemicals. we realize if you re notproud of yourself, if you don t feel accomplished, if you re

not good enough you can t make enough brain chemicals to be interestedin someone anyway. unless of course it s anew relationship it s always easy when there is newness because that stimulates dopamine.

so the bottom line is we need to love ourselves, we need to feel goodabout ourselves, we need to be proud of ourselves,we need to be forgiving of ourselves we need to be acting in a way that is in accordance with who we truly are.

you can be in the best relationship in the world but if you re notdoing what you re here to do let s say youre a man, and you re out of work. it s really hard to haveanything to give to your partner because you don t feel as if you ve accomplished anything

that day. so, we need to feel like we re doing what we re here to do. that s a kind of spiritual fulfillment that comes from loving ourselvesand being aligned to our true selfand being aligned to the world in some way

then you feel good about yourself then you have something to offer in a relationship. one of the biggest problemsi see in relationships is people get caught up thinking their partner is responsible

for their happiness. we need to be happy first and our partners can make us happier. if we re not feeling good about ourselves and our partners are not lavishingtheir love on us and happen to be ina bad mood we take it so personally we get

so upset. and we start complaining and that makes them feel unloved and theyre not feeling good about themselves and sothey just react back and this is where so many of the problems come from.

coach steve toth: yeah,makes sense. so tell us first when youmeant the first six months or first 4 months, whatever that is do you feel in your experience that people get hooked on that feeling itfeels really

good and then when it sover they re moving onto the next one? john gray, phd: actually, it s about three years . when you are with someone and you re in a relationship, typically theaverage is about

three years of free hormonesjust simply the newness, the challenge, the differences between you and your partner all those things create dopamine and dopamineis a pleasure brain chemicalyou have other experiences with it too motivation, pleasure

all tend to come aliveness all come from dopamine. you want to eat sugar and sugar produces a lot of dopamine in the brain. see you don t have to earnit, you don t have to do something to feel good you just have

to drink something with a lot of sugar in it, juice or have some cakeor cookies or whatever and that will thengive you a nice spike of blood sugar which causes the brain to create a lot of dopamine and that s why we like that.

you can do a variety of things you can do drugs, often when peopledrink alcohol half the population hasa particular gene that converts alcohol into dopamine those are the people that are most vulnerable to turning into alcoholics.

cause if you re feeling down and out and not feeling good about yourself,you re not accomplishing things whichmakes you have plenty of dopamine then you just drink a beer and suddenly your brain is feeling good about yourself and you relike i m feeling good

i just did a good day swork and you didn t do anything. coach steve toth: laughs. is that why we have a couple of very successful pop manufacturer s i dont want to name them because they becomeaddictive?

it s full of sugar? john gray, phd: we re talking about coca-cola. to be quite honest, coca cola is tame compared to whatever else isout there.

when you re looking atred bull and you re looking at mountain dew not only do they contain sugar, but they contain caffeine. caffeine is a major dopamine stimulant. everything in moderation

is fine. they just keep amping it up. you get rockstar and all these other drinks. this is high potency dopaminestimulators they ve got sugar in them and they have

caffeine in them. and that s why we likeit. the problem is when weoverstimulate the brain with dopamine it s easy to feel good as opposed to if you re not

living a good life you re going to feel depressedand the easy way out of it is to justdrink something with caffeine and sugar. otherwise you have to getup and do something you have motivation to do something and you have the easy way out and somebody says oh don t bother doing something,don t

bother working, don t botherchanging yourself . coach steve toth: don tget off the couch john gray, phd: that sright ... don t get off the couchdrink this. then you feel like hey ifeel like i just made a million bucks i feel fantastic.

what do i have to complain about in my life? this is unfortunate. we do live in kind of anaddictive society. all around us are theseaddictions and they stimulate higher levels

than normal of dopamine. when that occurs then whathappens is a brain change happens. everything in your bodyis about balance and compensation. if you go too far thisway then something happens over here to find

balance [motions with hand]. if you overstimulate dopaminethen your body down regulates receptor sites to dopamine. your body is kind of saying, that s too much stimulation, excuse me.

if you re going to give me that intensity, then i m going to giveyou less receptor sites . it s a then you end up with less receptor sites than normal lifewhich was already

boring you which is whyyou went to higher stimulation. normal life is more boringthan before so people become pathetic, they become passive, they lose passion. so the newness of a relationshipstimulates the same level of dopamine that you get when

you take cocaine and they ve measured that. i mean we re high as a kite when we are in a marriage or a relationshipwhen it starts out

peter and steve: laughter john gray, phd: it s an altered state that s why it s called fallingin love . coach steve toth: keepfalling john gray, phd: yeah, you

re falling. you re out. what we want to do is recognizeif we don t have skills to maintain dopamine production through good communication skills and the right nutrition to help thebody make that

dopamine. if we re missing either of those two things than by the time threeyears passes, suddenly you re down regulatingthose receptor sites so much that this partner is kind of

boring to you and it doesn t even have to be a huge amount of down regulationit s simply the newness of therelationship is no longer available to you after you get to know somebody it s that newness.

if you re comfortable and you love each other you think that s gonnamake it last. it takes other relationshipskills beyond just loving because what happens is if you re comfortable now you re not producing lots of dopamine so people losethe passion.

so, what we want to dois keep the skills alive that will keep us stimulating dopamine and we can talk a little more about that later. but what happens to people in relationships is you ve got newness, challenge,you ve got

sex and all these thingsare producing big dopamine stimulators just like eating a delicious desert. then you ve got coupleswho get in arguments. what happens to couplesthat get into arguments?

they always bring up thepast, don t they? they say, well i m upsetbecause of that . and then you say, yeah,but you did that and that . well, but you did thatand that . whenever you re lettingthe past come into the present like that then

you re no longer in the present. the reason relationshipsare so successful in the beginning is because you have no past. peter greenlaw: oh, thats great.

john gray, phd: this isreal stuff. this is real stuff. if you go somewhere new, you get all excited. we all like views and places.

coach steve toth: just like a new car, isn t it? john gray, phd: like a new car, exactly big dopamine booster. you push on the accelerator, which makes you go fast, and anytime you createa result

dopamine levels go up too. peter greenlaw: john, it s peter. i know we ve talked at length before, i m really happy that you agreewith me that the

tdos syndrome i ve identifiedreally does have a tremendously negative effect on brain chemistry not just because of the toxins but because of deficiency overweightand i think i mentioned even beforethat when stress remains high with cortisol which you ve taught

me a lot about one of the side effects is actually can shrink our brains. so the whole idea of anantithesis to this or a protocol to deal with because what you re talking about with relationships and all that kind of stuff nowyou put tdos on

top of that, couples withthe stress that they go through, coupled with a types which are using up the minerals so rapidly that now they re depleted and youused to tell me the one thing for women whenthe guy says, honey get me a beer run and get it because

that will stimulate the dopamine and he ll be in a better mood. because when we come home we re basically paralyzed, we can t functionfrom working so hard during the day. i would love for you to

address that john as it relates to tdos syndromeand certainly the antithesis being thetdos protocol and some of the things we ve talked about before like lithium orotate and grape seed extract and things like that forthe viewers i think. let s paint a picture ontop of everyday life the number one stressor

by the way steve being money. now you add relationshipsto that and now let s throw in red bull and monster, cookies and all this kind of stuff and we wonder why we re having these challengesin our lives

going forward on a dailybasis to kind of maximize our human potential or as john said i don t want to have to buy a car every month to feel good . you see what i m saying?

coach steve toth: yes. john and peter i m still back at self and i think we need to connectthe dots for the viewers what does our healthand what we put in our mouth have to do with our self, because without connecting

that let s not worry about another relationshipright now we re going to end up thereanyway but let s talk about how do we do service to ourselves by making sure that our bodies are getting all the thingsthat it needs to take care of itself?

john? john gray, phd: okay, let me comment on that but let me first commenton the statements that peter made the onestatement you made at the very beginning i just want to add

something to it as well which is how stress injures the brain. it shrinks parts of the brain it doesn t shrink every part of thebrain. it shrinks the front partsof the brain, which are the pre-frontal cortex of the brain where you have the executive

control. that s where you can communicate. that s where you can hear another person s point of view, that s whereyou can feel empathy, that s where youcan make a bunch of decisions and a lot of us will go, okay i m not going to eat a lot

of junk food but when we get low blood sugar,what do we do we go eat junk food. it s like we have no control. that s because... john gray, phd: that sbecause the front part of the brain is shrinking.

it s not being used, it s being shrunk. and what s growing at the same time, while the front part of the brainshrinks, the back part of the brain oftencalled the reptilian brain the unconscious part of the brain is growing.

stress causes the fightor flight part of the brain the primitive that part of the brain that you have no conscious control over that sgrowing bigger. the front part of the brain,where you can control the back part of the brain that s

getting smaller. this is a really key thinkwhat stress does to us people don t realize when you re chronically stressed, you re injuring your brain you re experiencingbrain de-generation.

and that's very important to look at. now addressing the next question, which was when men come home fromwork. it s not like when i comehome from work and i need to drink a beer or whatever but when men don t have the

right nutrition when they don t have the rightnutrition, they run out of dopamine veryquickly during the day and then they come home and they literally have no dopamine left. you can run out of it.

it s amazing if you look at see if you have low dopamine then you needa lot of stimulation to feel alive. if you have plenty of dopamine,you don t need a lot of stimulation to feel alive. now if you look at married couples at a restaurant and you ll see thatthey re not even

looking at each other. right! they don t even look ateach other. it s hard to look at somethingyou ve seen over, and over, and over. coach steve toth: well speak for yourself john there are certainthings i can look

at over and over. john gray, phd: i ll challengeyou on that. how many years are we talkingabout? no looking at body partsis a major dopamine stimulator a naked woman is a big

dopamine stimulator if it s a new woman every time but the same womanforty years later does not produce dopamine. particularly if you havelow dopamine levels. you have to have healthydopamine levels and then less stimulation has a bigger effect.

i mean this is what happens to couples. couples stop having sex average after 10-15 years. and i suspect you re not having sex after 15 years with the same women,because you keep

asking me let s talk aboutyourself . if you weren t marriedfor, 30 years and you weren t having sex all you would want to talk about relationships. but anyway coach steve toth: john,i haven t had sex in 10 years

john gray, phd: then definitelyanytime you see a female body part you re gonna get one fun story every sexologist learns this example in school. it s one of our presidents was visiting coover it s not coover let scall him

president coover so we dont embarrass him. we ll make up a name, butit was one of our presidents. he was with his wife ata farm where the bulls were siring the females. and they would bring one bull in after another one cow after another,after another,

after another. and mrs. coover was saying to thepeople her husband wasn t there at that moment. she says, will that bull do that all day long? and he says to her, yes

ma am he ll do it all day long . to which she says, tell that to mr. coover . so when president coovercomes along he says, you know your wife was here and she s watching this bull siring

the cows, and she wanted me to point out toyou that bull can do that all day long . and mr. coover said, can he do itwith the same cow all day long? no it has to be a differentcow every time .

and he says, tell thatto mrs. coover . peter and steve: laughing john gray, phd: i won ttell you what president that was that s a made up name. but that s your fun story.

and that comes from sexology which is to show once familiarity sets inyou can get in a comfort zone which is goodyou want to be comfortable, but if you don t have healthy dopamine levels, the comfort overshadows the newness that gets producedby that

produces dopamine. so it s a challenge in relationships to sustain dopamine levels andif we have if we re toxic if we re, eatinglots of pesticides that produce estrogen in the body that can

inhibit dopamine function. if we re taking stimulants, high sugar diet that s going to interferewith dopamine function. if we have heavy metal toxicity that gets into the brain and ourbrain is filled with

heavy metal toxicity youcan measure it now it interferes with the healing of inflammation in the brain and that interferes with dopamine function. if you have high bloodsugar, that will cause inflammation in the brain which we now

know causes alzheimer s and dementia. now we ll get off to the last part of the question, which is what aboutthe relationship with our self? we have to feel good aboutourselves and a man only feels good about

himself if his testosterone levels are healthy. whenever a man is depressed this is men, then we ll go to women. for a man to feel good about himself, his body has to be making enoughtestosterone to

support the recognitionthat i m a good guy, i make a difference in the world, i m aligned with my authentic self i accomplish, i achieve and i m goodenough and i m continuing to make a difference.

when a man achieves, itreleases testosterone. he can easily run out oftestosterone if he doesn t have health dopamine. they go hand in hand. and in a sense the waythe body works the brain says, we have a fire to put out . challenge.

dopamine gets released. if you re motivated toput out the fire, then your body responds with testosterone. and testosterone gets released into the system as you then solve the problem. men need dopamine to maketestosterone they need testosterone to be released into the

system to feel good about themselves and when a man releases testosteroneendorphins get released from the brainwhich is really like morphine it s your body s form of morphine. and that causes self-esteem.

so to feel good about yourselfyou need to be expressing yourself to be successful believe that you re successful. and be true to yourself if you re not authentic, you gradually becomedepressed as well. so for men, it s a testosterone

issue based upon the brain functioning plentyof for women, it s slightly different and sometimes radically differentit s a hormone that is proven to lowerstress for women is oxytocin. when oxytocin levels getreleased into her bloodstream, stress levels go down and

endorphins go up. her self-esteem goes upif she is making enough and releasing oxytocin. so, it s not an accomplishment or achievement or making money making moneyfeels good to women but it doesn tlower their stress.

unless they can t pay theirbills or whatever then of course, it does. but just the act of making money, achieving a goal that feels good toa woman that can produce some endorphins. but what lowers stressin women, the cortisol hormone is now proven that testosterone

release does not lower cortisol in women. it can raise a women s stress if it s too much even while she s feelinggood because she raised her testosteronefeeling good her stress levels are continuing to stay up. women need the hormone

oxytocin to be released in order to lowerstress levels for women. and having plenty of serotonin in the brain, serotonin and oxytocin use thesame receptor sites. in the brain that s a brain chemical as opposedto

this hormone oxytocin, thecuddle hormone. with plenty of serotoninthat lowers her stress that relaxes the emotions in her brain and allows cortisol to be released and lower her stress.

so there s is a whole different with how men cope with stress and women copewith stress and the brain chemicalsmen are most vulnerable of losing is dopamine whereas women their brains do not make serotonin as efficiently as men s .

their brains don t store it as efficiently as men s. men s make 50% more efficiently; men s brains store serotonin 50% more thanwomen. and under moderate stresswomen run out of serotonin 8 times faster than men do. because the emotional part

of their brain is twox bigger than a man s. and under moderate stress,there is eightx more blood flow in her brain causing her to remember everything that has gone wrong in the past. and we re laughing as guys

because we know with our wives that when theyre stressed they remember every mistakewe ever made and they give us that eye like, how can i trust you cause there sitting there reading your whole records like rightin front of her. if a man, he s like becoming

more and more upset he can start having thatability but generally guys are like,forget it , don t worry about it that s how men cope with stress often to minimize it to push it away, where women have to feelit and talk a bit about it.

and what s necessary for that to occur is the behavior happens butif she doesn t have the right nutrition thebrain, chemicals don t get made. and so women need to takemore serotonin and men need more dopamine and guess what?!

if you take un-denatured whey protein it s the most powerful stuffon the planet to help your brain producedopamine and serotonin. just as the proteins alongwith some omega 3 fats along with the minerals necessary to activate the enzymes necessary to make the brain chemicals.